The logic of the "Be Happy Your Child Has a Neurological Disorder Movement" is difficult to comprehend. These parents are actually happy that their children suffer from autistic deficits. The more extreme amongst them, like Estee Klar-Wolfond of the Joy of Autism, The Autism Acceptance Project, and other "projects", actually try to undermine the efforts of other parents seeking to help their own children overcome their deficits.
The confused thinking of the joy of autism mindset was highlighted in a recent letter to the editor of the Lebanon Daily News by Bonnie Price, mother of a 16 year old autistic boy who can not talk and who has the intellectual level of a 3-4 year old . Ms Price actually thanked God that her son is autistic even though she acknowledges in her letter that autism is a terrible affliction. Caring for her son has made her a better person and for that Ms Price expresses gratitude that her son is autistic:
Thank God for autism
My son, Seth, is almost 16. He was born with classic autism and mental retardation. His mind is that of a 3- or 4-year-old. He cannot talk at all, and he can never be left unattended. So why in the world would I say “thank God for Autism?”
Seth has taught me the meaning of unconditional love and brought a closeness to our family that could not have been but through trials. When he was 3, his natural father and I divorced. Were it not for autism, he may have fought for custody. Were it not for autism, I probably would have worked 40+ hours a week in pursuit of material possessions and never had learned to enjoy the simple life God has blessed us with. Were it not for autism, I may have ended up cold and indifferent to the needs of others.
We have witnessed the compassion, caring and generosity of others that we may otherwise not have seen. So, for all the misery of autism (and it is a terrible affliction), I am still deeply thankful God made Seth just the way he is. Seth is a beautiful person with autism.
Thank God for autism!
Finding no joy in child’s autism
I have a beautiful daughter, too. She is wonderful. She is full of life and is very athletic and bright. My two children are the joy of my life.
Price stated that her autistic son has taught her the meaning of unconditional love. I think all parents have unconditional love for their kids. If they didn’t, there’s something wrong.
She stated that if it weren’t for autism she probably would have worked 40 hours a week in pursuit of material possessions. Is she saying working your butt off in sacrifice to support your wife and kids is a bad thing? Working 40-plus hours a week has bought a house for my family, clothing and bikes for my kids, a swimming-pool membership and cars to drive my daughter to soccer and basketball practices and games.
Autism is horrible. My son has no real friends. He will probably be made fun of when he gets older. He never asks questions. He won’t play soccer, basketball, baseball or football with me. Autism is horrible !
I love my son to death. Seeing him smile or laugh really makes my day. Thank God for Autism? Those are four words that will never come out of my mouth. I thank God for my two great kids, not for my son’s mental disorder.
I love both of my sons including Conor who is severely autistic. I enjoy being with him every day. But I am not happy that he has autistic disorder. I find no joy in the knowledge that he will, like some other severely autistic persons, live his adult life in the care of others. Or that he can not fully communicate or comprehend the world. Joy of autism disorder is a confused, and sometimes harmful, mindset to which I will never belong.