tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33052404.post1466171106081487603..comments2024-02-13T21:31:57.980-04:00Comments on Facing Autism in New Brunswick: Autism Awareness: Blaming Other Parents Won't Change Autism RealitiesAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05838571980003579163noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33052404.post-32782194597715206942010-06-24T20:36:17.429-03:002010-06-24T20:36:17.429-03:00Chew thinks a lot like a child. Refuses to look at...Chew thinks a lot like a child. Refuses to look at the seriousness of autism and puts her fingers in her ears when anyone wants to talk about the reality of it. She's also one big hypocrite. Writes lengthly blogs and articles about how wrong biomed parents are for giving their kids those oh so harmful vitamin supplements yet she drugs her kid with large amounts of heavy duty psycho meds. Makes one wonder what her goal is for her son. Drug him and babysit him.<br /><br />SandyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33052404.post-7685885196717812082010-06-17T20:14:00.510-03:002010-06-17T20:14:00.510-03:00Having lived with the holes in the wall... we'...Having lived with the holes in the wall... we've managed to overcome that one through a lot of hard work and the fact he's the "will be normal" one.<br /><br />We're lucky the autistic one is so laid back. But I'm tired of the unending toiletting battles at 8.5yrs old...<br /><br />I love my autistic son.... but I'm with you. There's nothing wonderful nor glorious about autism. Yes, he's doing amazing... but I have no asperations that even if he learned to sort out that information we have crammed into his head the last 4 years he will ever be independant. Read "autism and the myth of the person alone" Biklen. <br /><br />This is not "right". This is not his "destiny". Should they ever find a cure or a magic pill... I'll be pushing you off your first spot in line Harold :)<br /><br />As for those that "snap"... I believe the saying goes "do not judge someone until you walk in their shoes"... What they did was illegal and under the law they must be held accountable.... Beyond that... I refuse to cast stones.farmwifetwonoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33052404.post-10743938236009365952010-06-17T19:43:16.490-03:002010-06-17T19:43:16.490-03:00This has to be the most accurate comment (off anot...This has to be the most accurate comment (off another blog) I have ever seen about Professor Chew.<br />When her son is 200lbs. and banging his head, maybe then she will realize that autism needs to be taken seriously and not as some lovely way of being.<br /><br /><br />"Those who can, do. Those who can't, teach psychobabble postmodern crap at second rate schools. She will not be remembered later, not even unkindly."<br /><br /><br />Posted by: BunnaW | February 01, 2009 at 12:38 AMAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33052404.post-80198930624187251062010-06-17T16:03:17.669-03:002010-06-17T16:03:17.669-03:00I don't see anywhere in this post that says th...I don't see anywhere in this post that says that parental stress due to child disability or severity of autism is an excuse for criminal acts (murder or any thing that infringes on the rights of a human being like physical or other abuse).<br /><br />I am also get angry when anybody kills anyone.<br />It seems particularly cold blooded and inhumane when someone more powerful kills someone more helpless and innocent and so on.<br /><br />But people often confuse acceptance with denial and surrender. To us it means the opposite - we accept, we love, we fight for changing things for the better. I think to do that you HAVE to take off the rosy shades and call things as they are.Strandedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16819973077683697310noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33052404.post-34464243783285562472010-06-17T14:06:57.194-03:002010-06-17T14:06:57.194-03:00Yes, I have two other children besides my Autistic...Yes, I have two other children besides my Autistic child and though this child has taught me the most...I think he should be teaching the Community the most. I went to the park last night to meet a mother of two Autistic kids. I never knew but maybe 1 (undiagnosed) child. To tell me there is no Environmental Trigger is a bunch of nonsense and I don't think any child is "disposable". I do feel it's either vaccines (the most direct violation of body,blood with neurotoxins) plus the more shots you get, the higher the rates of Autism. Doesn't take a rocket scientist (developed vs. underdeveloped). Even Identical twins without Autism. Pesticides, mercury, aluminum, all poison to little developing minds. We may be surprised to know there is mercury in our long lasting lightbulbs. Toxins are growing and we need to stop buying. Where do they bury them and what's in our water?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33052404.post-79493681116730359152010-06-17T13:27:56.231-03:002010-06-17T13:27:56.231-03:00Astrid,
Harold's point is not to excuse murder...Astrid,<br />Harold's point is not to excuse murder. But what leads to murder is a sense of hopelessness. I have hope. And that hope makes the killing of one's child an inconceivable act to me. While I can't bring myself to condemn a person whose actions are such a mystery as to be beyond comprehension, neither can I offer the difficulty in raising an autistic child as an excuse.<br /><br />Despite what is too often said about me -- and others like me -- is that I need to "accept" my son. Hope can coexist with acceptance, but is not dependent upon it.<br /><br />I DO accept my son, regardless of his ASD (not because of it). And that is true acceptance. What I do not accept is the inevitability of his disability.Wade Rankinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12986780783735604000noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33052404.post-81720879906974106492010-06-17T13:27:56.230-03:002010-06-17T13:27:56.230-03:00Isn't Chew's PhD in Greek Mythology? And,...Isn't Chew's PhD in Greek Mythology? And, doesn't she teach the same? So, her whole life based on avoiding reality.John Besthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03133970669787632440noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33052404.post-64991905711572040542010-06-17T11:32:34.863-03:002010-06-17T11:32:34.863-03:00I searched for over a year and a half on the inter...I searched for over a year and a half on the internet to find parents' whose experiences were similar to mine. I was constantly frustrated by the "disability is natural and wonderful" crowd. I thought maybe there was something wrong with me. Once I finally connected with "my own kind", it was a relief of magnitude proportions. To hear their stories, both good and bad, was the best thing ever and I have become a stronger and a better parent as a result.Clairehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13070297384173508509noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33052404.post-56757937014441527902010-06-17T10:55:04.778-03:002010-06-17T10:55:04.778-03:00K. Chew lives in her own little unrealistic world ...K. Chew lives in her own little unrealistic world and seems to constantly critcize those who take very seriously how difficult autism can be on a family. I applaud those parents who implement biomed and intensive ABA while also being well aware that autism is not just some wonderful quirky personality trait. It is disturbing that she takes this stance but I have a feeling that what she writes and how she truly feels deep down are two different things. I think she has created some image of herself thinking people actually are interested. Most parents are not.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33052404.post-85384086784878728622010-06-17T10:53:46.818-03:002010-06-17T10:53:46.818-03:00i tend to agree
my focus myself is on both aspec...i tend to agree <br /><br />my focus myself is on both aspects <br /><br />he is what he is and we love him and much of the time he is delightful and autism is nothing to be scared of <br /><br />that said autism is not easy to deal with and it requires patience and care and the ability to not lose your temper in the harshest of times<br /><br />the truth is the negative side of autism is a reality and it must be addressed, the number of parents who are inclined to harm their children due to disabilities are rare tho they do exist and hiding the truth will not change how they are likely to behave<br /><br />revel in the good, be proud of it and be publicly proud of it but dont hide the reality of what you have to deal with on a daily basisCarlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16042964155933448813noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33052404.post-89845159074989440062010-06-17T08:12:08.566-03:002010-06-17T08:12:08.566-03:00With all due respect, but I fail to understand how...With all due respect, but I fail to understand how parenting an autistic child, even a profoundly autistic child, should be an excuse for murder. Of course, parents may have mental health issues that are exacerbated by the stress of parenting, and, if a parent commites a crime against their child whilst in a mental illness episode, that should be taken into account. However, the stres of having a "defective" child is no excuse. Of course we should acknowledge the reality of what it's like to parent a severely disabled child, and to look for resources to make this easier, but I don't want to see this in the context of a tragic murder of a disabled child by their own parent. That may be parent-blaming, so be it. If the child weren't disabled, the parent would be very harshly blamed for killing them, no matter how stressed they were.Astridhttp://astridvanwoerkom.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.com